People Pleaser

One of my greatest challenges has been overcoming my “people pleasing” tendencies…I have said YES to some things that I absolutely did NOT want to do…all because..I didn’t want to hurt the feelings of the person that was asking…or that I believed it would compromise our relationship in some way…so I took on tasks that I was not designed for…I accepted invitations to events that I did not really want to attend…I sat in rooms with people that were excited about whatever was going on and I was mentally home on my couch wrapped in my comforter sipping a cup of tea watching my favorite show😊…What I found was this caused me to become anxious and even bitter at times…I would be quietly angry with the one who had assigned the task or given the invitation…I was not having fun…and I was internally at war with myself…now I’m not saying that everything you do…has to be something that you absolutely want to do…because in life there are some tough things that we may have to do that we do not like… to make it to our NEXT…however…I think we all know the difference…when we are afraid that our NO will offend or tear down a relationship… then our motives and motivations are all wrong..I learned this wonderful lesson…if my NO changes our relationship then it wasn’t very secure anyway…if my performance is the measurement that our relationship is judged on..I will always have to perform…I choose to embrace those things that speak to me …and the very purpose and plan that I was designed for…I would hate to think that I spent a lifetime pleasing others and then missed my “God planned life” …so glad that God Himself dropped this nugget on me some time ago…it absolutely reduced my stress level…and restored balance to my life…who are you pleasing?